Children face real fears—and simply telling them not to be afraid may leave them feeling dismissed rather than understood. On this episode of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk, Roger Marsh concludes his conversation with Montell and Kristin Jordan about their children’s book, Shiloh and the Not-So-Scary Girl Above His Bed. Together, they explain how parents and grandparents can listen to children’s concerns, bring God into their fears and equip them to take one brave step at a time. What if the Monster Is Afraid Too? The idea for Shiloh began when one of the Jordans’ sons was three years old and afraid of the monster under his bed. Kristin responded with a question that changed his perspective: “What if the monster that lives under your bed is more afraid of you than you are of him?” Instead of merely denying the child’s fear, she turned it around. Perhaps the unknown creature was not an enemy at all. Perhaps it was different, frightened and even capable of becoming a friend. That moment became the foundation for a story designed to help children reconsider the things that frighten them. Unattended Fear Can Follow Children Into Adulthood Montell and Kristin believe fears left unaddressed during childhood can influence decisions, relationships and emotional health later in life. Through their marriage ministry, they have encountered adults who remain afraid to commit, leave unhealthy situations, make decisions or confront uncertainty. Their goal is not to teach children that frightening situations are imaginary or insignificant. Instead, they want children to understand that they can invite God into those situations and move forward with courage. Being courageous does not mean nothing feels scary. It means allowing faith to lead while taking one brave step at a time. Listen Before Offering an Answer Adults often respond to frightened children by saying, “Don’t be afraid. Everything is fine.” While well-intentioned, that response can minimize something that feels very real to the child. Kristin encourages parents and grandparents to ask questions instead: What are you afraid of? Why does that feel frightening to you? What did you see or hear that caused you to feel this way? How can we invite God into this situation? Children are often willing to explain exactly what is happening in their minds when adults slow down and listen. That conversation gives parents an opportunity to respond gently, correct misunderstandings and introduce biblical truth. Protecting Childhood…
